Most guys would not trade places with me right now. After moving my family from San Diego to CT/NY one year ago, I am now less than 3 weeks away from having my second child and have yet to re-establish my professional presence on the east coast. It is scary. Thankfully, our lives are not consecrated to one perspective. In the midst of the discomfort born out of the lack of foundational roots, there is a freedom to write the script of my life: a freedom many families have long ago surrendered for the promise of security.

My mind screams at me daily to find that security. But my heart reminds me of its priorities for establishing a family dynamic that will feed me for a lifetime. As I stand at this crossroads, my goals are clear: Provide security and stability for my family within a structure that allows me to lead a fulfilling life as a husband and dad.

Last week, I posted my first blog giving you a little background as to where I am at on my journey. Moving forward I will provide videos discussing the challenges and wisdom I find along the way to creating the life I want.

It is common for anyone to harbor self-judgment surrounding our inability to create the life we envision for our family and ourselves. When we live in self-judgment, we end up cutting ourselves off from our family AND our greatest potential to get back on track with achieving our goals in life. In the video below, I discuss the importance of allowing ourselves to be vulnerable to the pressures of “keeping it all together”. Sometimes it is tough to be vulnerable and admit we do not have all the answers. Sometimes it is tough to admit we are scared. But when we do, we are actually liberated -coming back to our true starting point. And from there we can build up our foundation once again with more wisdom than before.

I invite any and all comments; I’d love to start a discussion on these issues that seem to silently affect many guys out there. In fact, these issues affect men and women alike. I’d love to hear all sides.