For years I have wondered what makes a good man..
Am I a better man if I’m built like a football player or a sumo wrestler? Does my physical form make me better? Who wouldn’t want to be ripped and buff but, does that mean you’re a man?
Am I a better man if I’m incredibly intelligent or dumb as an ox? Does my comprehension of the world around us make me a better man? If I could crunch numbers and read faster than anyone else and my thought process or brain make me a man?
Am I a better man because of my belongings and my job? Does my income make me better than the someone who makes more or less than me? Would I be a better man if I was a CEO or a janitor? If I had a fast car, big tv, and huge house would that be how you measured my worth?
Are my physical belongings what make me a man?
I’ve been trying to figure out what makes a man. What are the measures of a man… (put your rulers away) What does it truly mean to be a man?.. Money?.. Wealth?.. Body style?.. What does it really mean to be a good man.. Or what do I think it means to be a good man..
For me personally.. Being a man has nothing to do with your body type. Nothing to do with your intelligence. Most of all nothing to do with income money or possessions.
Being a man is about what’s on the inside, how you think and how you act… I’m going to tell you the 7 things I think it takes to be a man.
LOVE.. A man loves with all his heart. His family, his friends, and his community.. Before you shrug this off and mumble. “Pffft… Love..” Love is an amazing thing. It makes you strong and courageous, selfless and compassionate, most of all love make this life wonderful..
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. -Lao Tzu
SACRIFICE.. I know this sounds crazy and no im not talking about building an idle to kill people… To be a man you must know what it means to sacrifice.. To put others needs before yours. To help someone because you can and its the right thing to do. To bust your ass for the life you want.. You will never know how good you got it, until you sacrifice what little you have for someone you love.
There is no decision that we can make that doesn’t come with some sort of balance or sacrifice. -Simon Sinek
COURAGE.. For me courage is never giving up. Never stopping the fight. When everything seems bleak and the struggles of life get you down its courage that keeps you going.. Courage is standing up for what wrong with this world and make a difference.. Make a difference in your life and the community around you.
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. -Nelson Mandela
HONOR… Something I fear most men are losing… Honor, respect everyone you meet. You have no clue what their struggle has been. Honor your elders respect them and listen to what they have to say. We can learn so much from just a few moments of keeping our mouths closed. Honor those you love and be proud of them. Hold them high put them on the pedestal put them in the light.
You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor. -Aristotle
GRATEFULNESS.. Be grateful for what you have and what you receive. You may feel like you don’t have much but, honestly you have so much more than so many others. Be grateful for the people in your life for at any moment you can lose them. Cherish them and keep them close alway tell them how valuable they are to you. Be kind to those who have less. One day that could be you.
Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems. -Zig Ziglar
LOYALTY… I know this sound off but, be loyal to your beliefs stand firm with your ideas. Stay loyal to your partner for there is no pain like an unfaithful person. Stay true with your family and friends. Be that rock they need because every strong future starts with a strong foundation.
Loyalty and devotion lead to bravery. Bravery leads to the spirit of self-sacrifice. The spirit of self-sacrifice creates trust in the power of love. -Morihei Ueshiba
FAITH… I don’t necessarily mean in a God but, if you do thats great. Have faith in something bigger than yourself. Faith in know that tomorrow will be a better day. That regardless how hard things seem that at one point they will get better. Have faith in the people around you you some may fail but others will surprise the hell out of you. HAve faith in children they really are our future.
Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies. -Mother Teresa
For me the measures of a man have nothing to do with your body, money, or brains. I think the measures of a man is from the heart.. This is what I try to be every day…
What do you think makes a man?… Are you that man?..