According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, 28% of students in grades 6-12 have experienced bullying. That number is huge, particularly given the increase of youth suicide.  As school age bullying comes increasingly to the forefront of international studies and news, I’ve done some research on how to safeguard my own kids. I’ve always encouraged them to talk to me; our home is a judgment free zone. I know, however, that this doesn’t always help to stop the bullying. With that in mind, here are a few alternatives.

Strictly monitor social media activity

I’m guilty. My oldest child has posted a number of things to social media and other sites that I’ve not been aware of until days, sometimes weeks, later. Social media isn’t just a new trend. It’s simply the way kids communicate today. Selfies, memes, likes and hashtags are a dialect. We might not like it, but it’s here to stay.

The internet is not a safe place. Your child can find, post, and be “tagged” in content from foul language to pornography. A CNN article promotes what the author calls “tech transparency” and I fully advocate this. There are dozens of apps which allow parents to “spy” on their children online, but perhaps the easiest way to know what your kids are doing on the internet is to ask them. Follow them on social media, initiate conversation, and earn their trust.

Consider private school

While it may seem an extreme option, it’s possible that your child could benefit from leaving the public school system. Typically, a private co educational school is smaller than public, with more adult mentorship and supervision available to each student. Uniforms are often required; this gives students a homogenous look and eliminates the temptation to target a child based on his clothing or style. There are countless options available, including magnet schools, charter schools, Christian, Catholic, and college preparatory schools. You can check out Ravenscroft’s offering to get an idea. There are also a number of ways to research which option might be best for your child. In the United States, the National Association of Independent Schools serves as a tool to find and apply for private education. Overseas in the UK, Educators Guide to the Best Private Schools is a great resource for not only finding a school, but also tips for writing entrance essays and studying for exams.

Research your options, ask other parents, and communicate with your child about this option. Private schools are a viable option for families, and tuition assistance is available for those who need it. You can visit Monte Cassino School homepage to know more.

Create a safe space

I’ve stressed the importance of communication with your child. But it’s equally important to realize that sometimes he just won’t want to talk. He has the right to introspect, just as you and I do. Simply let him know that you’re there to talk when he decides the time is right, and let him brood in peace.

The exception to this is if you notice lasting changes in your child’s behavior. Frequent time spent alone, unexplained crying, increased hostility or changes in eating and sleeping habits can all be signs that something more serious than teen angst is affecting your child. The Mayo Clinic outlines symptoms of depression in kids and teens; be watchful for signs in your child.

It’s unfortunate that as parents we find ourselves protecting our children from other children. But bullying is real, and it hurts. Your kids will witness it, might experience it, or might even facilitate it. But if you stay involved in your child’s life, you may be able to minimize it.