I have seen so many people say they’re falling out of love. I don’t love him like I use to or, I don’t love her like I use to. I don’t understand this and I never have.
Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. -Bruce Lee
I don’t understand how someone can say they give up on love. How you can just quit your partner. Unfortunately we now live in a day and age where people replace the light when just the bulb is burnt out.
We always ask that old couple “How did you stay married so long?”.. Most of the answers are WE NEVER QUIT. We built and we change we love each other and hated each other but we never once quit.
For me love in a relationship isn’t a constant it’s never the same and always changing like I am.
Love, like life has its ups and downs its good times and the bad but, is it okay to quit life, to give up? No you keep fighting and makings things better. When you feel like there is a low point with love where you feel like you just don’t care like you use to. Take a step back and look at everything.
Is the flame really gone or smoldered into a tiny ember? Are you missing that huge explosion of passion that fresh being chased and what most call the “cupcake stage”. Are you missing that flirting and romance?
After a while in any relationship that starts to fade and slowly dies away. If you have kids that often will even make relationships harder. BUT.. DON’T give in DON’T give up and DON’T quit. Build and fight to make things work.
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. -Tom Robbins
Writing this got me thinking. Why do people fall out of love? What is it, they are missing to make them feel that way?
The little lady and I often fight over stupid stuff.. Hell… She’s even told me she misses that cupcake stage that adorable love dovey stuff.. Little notes and ways to I showed her I love her.. Well the “Cupcake” stage like all good things must end.. For me it turned into “The Spoon and a Jar of Peanut Butter” stage..
That doesn’t mean you’re loved less or my feelings have changed all it means it that were so comfortable with each other that you can sit in bed with a spoon and peanut butter. You can sit with you nasty sweats and that tee shirt I hate so much or my shirt. Yeah the one that I don’t want you to wear but, I love you too much to tell you. You have traded those flowers and the love notes for leaving the door open when you pee and farting while I’m cuddling with you..
My wife, my family, my friends – they’ve all taught me things about love and what that emotion really means. In a nutshell, loving someone is about giving, not receiving. -Nicholas Sparks
Many mistake passion and intimacy for a lack of love or romance.. Passion is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for something…As a father I have found more passion the before.. I don’t mean throw your partner on the bed and ravage them. I’m talking about waking up in the morning and getting our daughter ready for school so she can sleep in or cleaning the kitchen so she doesn’t have to. Buying lady products at the store and even getting that damn ice cream she likes so much. Or hell her damn ice cold feet… (Every guy knows what I’m talking about) Those are a few of the many things I do for her because I love her and I’m passionate about seeing her happy. Passionate about seeing her have a better life.
Intimacy has always been hard for me and I always have lacked in that section like a lot of guys.. It’s hard to be intimate as a parent and it’s hard to be vulnerable as a guy but, I’m show her my emotions and my weakness I allow her to see my flaws and I don’t know how much more intimate you can get that that.
People fall out of love because they quit and give up.. They stop trying.. Often because they are terrified of failing or being hurt..
What if I fall? OH, but my darling, what if you fly? ― Erin Hanson
Look at your partner.. Look at all the flaws all the strengths.. Look at everything you have built.. Is it worth giving up on? Worth quitting on? Worth knocking to the ground and starting over with someone new? OR.. Keep building and continue to love that person who loves you..
There are never enough I Love You’s. -Lenny Bruce
This is a promise to my Crystal I will love you forever and never give up on us. Even in our darkest I will always be there with a little light.. I will hug you and hold you every day.. Most of all I will love you forever.