How 3 Photography Skills Convinced a Hot Girl to Let Me Father Her Children

by Louis De Barraicua

Everyday I live in humility because I wake up next to her. It’s not just physical beauty. It’s her within – the micro actions and utterances – powerful, subtle aesthetics. And I’m not going to lie. Sometimes I felt like she was indifferent toward me, like she could do without. The truth is most mornings I’m aware that fortune has smile upon me, and it all started with 3 things I learned about photography from the best commercial photographer near us. I saw her the way no one else did. I looked at her photographs and marveled at how she seemed to look like a completely different person. “You mind if I take a picture of you?” I asked.

“I don’t look good in pictures,” she said. “I’d rather not.”

And as I got to know her, she felt more comfortable and we started taking photographs. It wasn’t long before we posted some of them online and the way she saw herself began to align with the way I saw her. “I never felt very pretty until I met you,” she told me. Getting tips from a Family Photographer has helped me improve my final results.

How did I convince her? I showed her the world in my eyes.

Here are three photography rules to get you started:

Be aware of the light. Fact: Photography is the art of capturing light. You can take advantage of this by cultivating light awareness. For example, do you see shadows in faces? (usually, not good) Do you see extreme contrasts in brightness? (usually, not good) To start off, begin using windows as your light source. This will help you get rid of the unflattering shadows in her face. A competent photographer always know the sources of the light. For example, if you have northern-facing windows, they will always provide the most ideal kind of light because they will never emit hard, direct sunlight even at the times of the day when light is the harshest. To make her look even better, try not to put her back facing the window. You can also use golden hour for photography to get soft light that creates the popular moody, cinematic look. According to a tip I learned from Untold Boudoir Photography, if you’re outside, avoid taking her picture in direct high noon sunlight where the harsh contrast will be unflattering. Try to get in her in the shade where the bright even light will make her look especially good.

The camera should always be higher than her nose. In Hollywood, many actresses have it written in their contracts that they cannot be photographed below the nose. Also, the photographer must use a prime lens with an open aperture to get headshots, which means the background should be blurred, and the photo slightly over-exposed. Trust me on this one. Everyone from your wife to your grandmother will appreciate keeping the lens above the nose.

Develop Background Awareness. The easiest way to determine if a photographer is a professional or not is by looking at what is in the background of the main subject of their photograph. For example, if there is a pole or a building merging with the subject’s head or a tree limb that is right behind their arm, then it’s fair to say that the photographer doesn’t a professional level background awareness. For the most part, you want to find a clear background or a a pattern in the background to complement your subject. Tips like this can be utilized for your next Family Photoshoots in London.

It’s effortless to master some areas of the surprisingly complex art form of photography – everything from geometry to an effective interaction with the subject make such a difference. Years ago, my photography professor never taught me the things that could’ve made me so much better. The important thing though is that I got my beautiful wife to agree with me that she’s beautiful. When we went back to her hometown recently we went to a local restaurant where one of her old high school mates remarked how stunning she had looked on social media over the years. He seemed surprised that she was just as beautiful in person. Maybe she was a late bloomer, I thought. Or maybe it was the photography…or the new way she saw herself. Either way, I am a grateful man who knows that good photography comes in handy in its own mysterious way everyday of my life.

Louis de Barraicua is a film teacher in Los Angeles and the cofounder of “Nube”, a parent-managed learning platform that engages kids virtually and with purpose. Reach out to the writer at reallylook@me.com